Relationships and Conflict
Ken Mcleod has a great podcast on Relationships and Conflict. According to him Conflict is the experience of resistance to change when two or more worlds interact.
The four stages of conflict are
1. Passification what is the issue, give each other space.
2. Enrichment- use a third party to help figure out the situation.
3. Magnetization-use personal energy to compel a resolution.
4. Destruction- Unilateral action that ends a relationship.
Questions we should ask when in a relationship.
1. What am i doing here?
2. Being present for and to the other person.
3. Opening up and serving whats true to our perception
4. Recieving the result and Deep listening.
Pain is the sensation and suffering is how we react to pain. One of the marks of existence is to be present and open to the pain and suffering of the other. See where the resistance is and ask yourself, do I need to resist?, what am I resisting and do I need to resist at all? See where the resistance is, and open up to the totality of experience, not just my suffering and your suffering.
Another mark of existence is what is my intention, the intention is to be one with the experience and to do what the situation requires.
The four stages of conflict are
1. Passification what is the issue, give each other space.
2. Enrichment- use a third party to help figure out the situation.
3. Magnetization-use personal energy to compel a resolution.
4. Destruction- Unilateral action that ends a relationship.
Questions we should ask when in a relationship.
1. What am i doing here?
2. Being present for and to the other person.
3. Opening up and serving whats true to our perception
4. Recieving the result and Deep listening.
Pain is the sensation and suffering is how we react to pain. One of the marks of existence is to be present and open to the pain and suffering of the other. See where the resistance is and ask yourself, do I need to resist?, what am I resisting and do I need to resist at all? See where the resistance is, and open up to the totality of experience, not just my suffering and your suffering.
Another mark of existence is what is my intention, the intention is to be one with the experience and to do what the situation requires.
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