no Guarantees in life
http://www.nytimes.com/2006/01/01/fashion/sundaystyles/01LOVE.html
Interesting article in the n.y.t. modern love section today, jan 1st 06, adding on, to the debate between working and non-working moms..this woman was served with a divorce on her 40th wedding aniversary!
i fear for a lot of women, that i know, that feel so happy and virtuous, giving up their careers and income. They fall into the trap of being dependent on the benevolence of their husbands often the moment they get pregnant. It seems their work, that they studied so hard for, is irrelevant to the rest of their lives, now that they are going to be moms!
I wonder how much is laziness, and how much is actual child care related work, since most of the women with rich husbands have nannies. I think if a mother is organized she can spend quality time with her children, and find satisfaction in her work. Work does not need to be limited to a 9-5 job, but it can encompass hobbies, writtings, taking classes and reading books to open the mind.
I have met a lot of nannies who have left their young children in Sri Lanka, Phillipines, Nepal and the Caribbean. What are their lives like ? I imagine they must live on two disjointed planes, as they see their well to do mistresses worry about their weight and hair, while they labor so that their children can have food on the table. On the other hand atleast these women from the third world, have a means of supporting their families. The power of being able to distribute money within the family is empowering, providing them a confidence they could never have, if they had not come here.
I think women should be free to make choices that work for them, but they should ensure that they have financial security as they get older.
Interesting article in the n.y.t. modern love section today, jan 1st 06, adding on, to the debate between working and non-working moms..this woman was served with a divorce on her 40th wedding aniversary!
i fear for a lot of women, that i know, that feel so happy and virtuous, giving up their careers and income. They fall into the trap of being dependent on the benevolence of their husbands often the moment they get pregnant. It seems their work, that they studied so hard for, is irrelevant to the rest of their lives, now that they are going to be moms!
I wonder how much is laziness, and how much is actual child care related work, since most of the women with rich husbands have nannies. I think if a mother is organized she can spend quality time with her children, and find satisfaction in her work. Work does not need to be limited to a 9-5 job, but it can encompass hobbies, writtings, taking classes and reading books to open the mind.
I have met a lot of nannies who have left their young children in Sri Lanka, Phillipines, Nepal and the Caribbean. What are their lives like ? I imagine they must live on two disjointed planes, as they see their well to do mistresses worry about their weight and hair, while they labor so that their children can have food on the table. On the other hand atleast these women from the third world, have a means of supporting their families. The power of being able to distribute money within the family is empowering, providing them a confidence they could never have, if they had not come here.
I think women should be free to make choices that work for them, but they should ensure that they have financial security as they get older.
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the same duo have also published a book - Global Woman - a collection of essays on the subject of the wests need for a new kind of "emotional labour" that immigrant women workers are often fulfilling. Very interesting . & then there's the movie "When mother came home for christmas".
Amba i love your blog and especially the fact that you are doing it. I love the sky photos especially.