Conquest of Anger Swami Sadasivananda 4, 5
class 4
Recognizing your push buttons- it’s associated with hurt in the past. Field of hyper sensitivity. Differences amplified when you live together, conflict is natural as you adapt to one another.
Combining several different methods when dealing with anger.
-not habitual
-practice mediation, forgiveness and patience.
Good and bad qualities are relative. Anger is not separate from the mind. Its important to build a good image of yourself.
Positive and negative both work on a project of momentum. Ego sustains its life through comparisons. Wise men not affected by the presence or absence of passion or ignorance. There is no sense of dooership.
Forms of anger
1. Resentment is a deep form of anger, it maintains a continuum of anger wish to retaliate, form of hate, allow oneself to forgive or forget.
Shut down, enemy of my peace, includes all your emotions from your past, resentment lasts longer, it leaves behind emotional residue, undigested anger.
First level of forgiveness-
1. Forgive your parents- take time out and work out your differences. Synthesize differences- find a common link in relationships, respect keep on working on it. Insist on love and it will come back to you. Each life time has new challenges, new life times love matures, respect matures. Its important to be consistent in its application. Power to accomplish, and the power to postpone.
2. Cultivate hopefulness your past does not need to determine your present.
3. Speak to the person directly and tactfully.
4. Work with non-attachment how does the situation effect you in your mind, by saying it and writing about it in your journal, it heals you in your mind.
5. Cleared field of perception- what am I experiencing. Look in a mirror and make a list of what I accept about myself and what I do not accept about myself. Sense of separateness kept alive by ego. Comparisons feed alienation and separation. Accept yourself, poor self image. In order to change you do not need to think of yourself as bad.
Conflict styles
1. Avoidance-shut down, change the subject
2. Control insist on having it all our own way, give ultimatums.
3. Accommodation- please others at your own expense, facilitate accomplishment at your own expense.
4. Compromise a little bit
4. Collaboration trying to make every one happy.
10 major styles
1. Conflict avoiders- afraid, convinced conflicts are bad. They do not resolve anything, they internalized their anger.
2. Passive aggressive don’t handle anger well, sneaky
3. Deliberate aggressive vague, not expressing disagreements, show up late, attract attention, don’t do the job, addicts, play by their rules, forgetfulness as a way to sabotage, put stuff in the wrong place. Where does the energy of no agreement go? Small victories
-4. Overly suspicious always on guard
5. Sudden exploder intimidations, I couldn’t help it, take time out.
6. Lovers of conflict bully fear and intimidate, to achieve goals.
7. Thin skinned emotionally manipulative
8. Grudge holders
9. Moral crusaders cause
10. Habitual complainers depressed, focus on food.
class 5
Anger, lust, lack of moderation, pride are all emotions that have one universal energy of anger.
Anger, delusion, ignorance only resolve when we know ourselves.
Dissolve false personality of ego, dooership, deliberation, intention.
If we are positive we are less susceptible to attacks of anger.
Sublimation of anger- we need to change the vibration of thought. Yoga, asanas, pranayam, yantras, we need to change the vibration of the mind.
Tend to identify, vibration goes higher. Follow positive vibration and explore the true nature of the self.
You may swallow anger, or use anger to achieve your goals.
If you became depressed, you can be dominated and are afraid.
Attachment is the cause of anger- craving are the things you don’t possess, Attachment is the things you can’t possess. Its important to detach gradually, you became freer and happier.
List of expectations, things you fail at. Be resourceful, be adaptable and filled with hopefulness.
Patience-
a way of dissolving the energy of anger. Its an antidote to anger. Recognize the habitual nature of anger, know the disadvantages of anger. Realize what you should do when you are angry.
Layout possible techniques. Meditate, contemplate
Pratibhaksha bhawana- not allowing negativity to take place, but sublimating it with a postive feeling.
Do it when not angry, contemplate.
Friction and differences are natural, short tempered and critical conflicts force minds to purify.
Anger is like dealing with accumulate dirt. Patience is the best possible practise.
Respect differences. To be patient is to remain calm, undisturbed, in the face of difficulties.
Qualities- tolerance, internal calm and endurance. Majority of our desires remain unfulfilled. To deal with this new need endurance.
1. Patience able to accept things, accepting it whole heartedly, happily, its more than gritting teeth. Creating a heart to accept changes. Drop expectations plans. Your own expectations change, don’t give up.
2. Welcome wholeheartedly whatever arises, even though it may not happen how you want it to happen.
3. Accept minor inconveniences- compare it with the big picture.
4. Patient acceptance of illness
benefits of patience
1. Opportunity to value situations clearly and on that basis make decisions.
2. Increased health
3. Relationships are more harmonious.
4. Save time that you normally would waste on conflict. Time is precious, it’s the vital breath of life.
5. Mental stability equipoise is the nature of life
6. Strength- everything will come if you only wait, knowing how to wait is the secret of success.
7. Patience develops will power.
8. Act or quality waiting for justice expect good without discontent.
How to practise
1. Out of anger
2. Active listening
3. Practise considerate speech, see others suffering
4. Reduce overly sensitive nature
anger is caused by rights being denied., hyper sensitivity, push buttons, defuse push buttons, defuse sensitivity.
Don’t drop ethical values, find different ways to communicate.
1. Give up wish to prove your case
2. Give up needing to have the last point
3. Give up the craving to be vindicated, its useful to accept defeat.
Non violent non resisting
abandon keeping a black list- let go of the connections of stock pilling hurtful experiences.
4. Take criticism calmly, when they see we have strength and good character, praise with good humor, laugh away defects, defend yourself if necessary.
5. Try and learn to say I am sorry.
6. Don’t try and change others, try and practise accepting others as they are.
.Make people feel good, you can’t influence people when they are contracted.
Purpose of practise of patience
good actions take time to evolve.
Karmic results of anger - you have an unattractive birth. Today beautiful bodies, are a result of patience, that has been practiced in the past.
Our internal enemies do not die a natural death.
- disagreeable people are beneficial they are our benefactors
- do not underestimate the value of patience
forgiveness
1. Visualize an object of anger- environment, face
2. Imagine the disadvantages of anger
3. Mentally repeat the disadvantages
I breathe in, I breathe out
4. Go back and enact it out with patience
5. Benefits of patience
6. Say O.M. 3 times, from now onwards I feel patience, from now on I manifest patience, from now on I think patience
6-7 times 8 min a day
This is a contemplative technique
Recognizing your push buttons- it’s associated with hurt in the past. Field of hyper sensitivity. Differences amplified when you live together, conflict is natural as you adapt to one another.
Combining several different methods when dealing with anger.
-not habitual
-practice mediation, forgiveness and patience.
Good and bad qualities are relative. Anger is not separate from the mind. Its important to build a good image of yourself.
Positive and negative both work on a project of momentum. Ego sustains its life through comparisons. Wise men not affected by the presence or absence of passion or ignorance. There is no sense of dooership.
Forms of anger
1. Resentment is a deep form of anger, it maintains a continuum of anger wish to retaliate, form of hate, allow oneself to forgive or forget.
Shut down, enemy of my peace, includes all your emotions from your past, resentment lasts longer, it leaves behind emotional residue, undigested anger.
First level of forgiveness-
1. Forgive your parents- take time out and work out your differences. Synthesize differences- find a common link in relationships, respect keep on working on it. Insist on love and it will come back to you. Each life time has new challenges, new life times love matures, respect matures. Its important to be consistent in its application. Power to accomplish, and the power to postpone.
2. Cultivate hopefulness your past does not need to determine your present.
3. Speak to the person directly and tactfully.
4. Work with non-attachment how does the situation effect you in your mind, by saying it and writing about it in your journal, it heals you in your mind.
5. Cleared field of perception- what am I experiencing. Look in a mirror and make a list of what I accept about myself and what I do not accept about myself. Sense of separateness kept alive by ego. Comparisons feed alienation and separation. Accept yourself, poor self image. In order to change you do not need to think of yourself as bad.
Conflict styles
1. Avoidance-shut down, change the subject
2. Control insist on having it all our own way, give ultimatums.
3. Accommodation- please others at your own expense, facilitate accomplishment at your own expense.
4. Compromise a little bit
4. Collaboration trying to make every one happy.
10 major styles
1. Conflict avoiders- afraid, convinced conflicts are bad. They do not resolve anything, they internalized their anger.
2. Passive aggressive don’t handle anger well, sneaky
3. Deliberate aggressive vague, not expressing disagreements, show up late, attract attention, don’t do the job, addicts, play by their rules, forgetfulness as a way to sabotage, put stuff in the wrong place. Where does the energy of no agreement go? Small victories
-4. Overly suspicious always on guard
5. Sudden exploder intimidations, I couldn’t help it, take time out.
6. Lovers of conflict bully fear and intimidate, to achieve goals.
7. Thin skinned emotionally manipulative
8. Grudge holders
9. Moral crusaders cause
10. Habitual complainers depressed, focus on food.
class 5
Anger, lust, lack of moderation, pride are all emotions that have one universal energy of anger.
Anger, delusion, ignorance only resolve when we know ourselves.
Dissolve false personality of ego, dooership, deliberation, intention.
If we are positive we are less susceptible to attacks of anger.
Sublimation of anger- we need to change the vibration of thought. Yoga, asanas, pranayam, yantras, we need to change the vibration of the mind.
Tend to identify, vibration goes higher. Follow positive vibration and explore the true nature of the self.
You may swallow anger, or use anger to achieve your goals.
If you became depressed, you can be dominated and are afraid.
Attachment is the cause of anger- craving are the things you don’t possess, Attachment is the things you can’t possess. Its important to detach gradually, you became freer and happier.
List of expectations, things you fail at. Be resourceful, be adaptable and filled with hopefulness.
Patience-
a way of dissolving the energy of anger. Its an antidote to anger. Recognize the habitual nature of anger, know the disadvantages of anger. Realize what you should do when you are angry.
Layout possible techniques. Meditate, contemplate
Pratibhaksha bhawana- not allowing negativity to take place, but sublimating it with a postive feeling.
Do it when not angry, contemplate.
Friction and differences are natural, short tempered and critical conflicts force minds to purify.
Anger is like dealing with accumulate dirt. Patience is the best possible practise.
Respect differences. To be patient is to remain calm, undisturbed, in the face of difficulties.
Qualities- tolerance, internal calm and endurance. Majority of our desires remain unfulfilled. To deal with this new need endurance.
1. Patience able to accept things, accepting it whole heartedly, happily, its more than gritting teeth. Creating a heart to accept changes. Drop expectations plans. Your own expectations change, don’t give up.
2. Welcome wholeheartedly whatever arises, even though it may not happen how you want it to happen.
3. Accept minor inconveniences- compare it with the big picture.
4. Patient acceptance of illness
benefits of patience
1. Opportunity to value situations clearly and on that basis make decisions.
2. Increased health
3. Relationships are more harmonious.
4. Save time that you normally would waste on conflict. Time is precious, it’s the vital breath of life.
5. Mental stability equipoise is the nature of life
6. Strength- everything will come if you only wait, knowing how to wait is the secret of success.
7. Patience develops will power.
8. Act or quality waiting for justice expect good without discontent.
How to practise
1. Out of anger
2. Active listening
3. Practise considerate speech, see others suffering
4. Reduce overly sensitive nature
anger is caused by rights being denied., hyper sensitivity, push buttons, defuse push buttons, defuse sensitivity.
Don’t drop ethical values, find different ways to communicate.
1. Give up wish to prove your case
2. Give up needing to have the last point
3. Give up the craving to be vindicated, its useful to accept defeat.
Non violent non resisting
abandon keeping a black list- let go of the connections of stock pilling hurtful experiences.
4. Take criticism calmly, when they see we have strength and good character, praise with good humor, laugh away defects, defend yourself if necessary.
5. Try and learn to say I am sorry.
6. Don’t try and change others, try and practise accepting others as they are.
.Make people feel good, you can’t influence people when they are contracted.
Purpose of practise of patience
good actions take time to evolve.
Karmic results of anger - you have an unattractive birth. Today beautiful bodies, are a result of patience, that has been practiced in the past.
Our internal enemies do not die a natural death.
- disagreeable people are beneficial they are our benefactors
- do not underestimate the value of patience
forgiveness
1. Visualize an object of anger- environment, face
2. Imagine the disadvantages of anger
3. Mentally repeat the disadvantages
I breathe in, I breathe out
4. Go back and enact it out with patience
5. Benefits of patience
6. Say O.M. 3 times, from now onwards I feel patience, from now on I manifest patience, from now on I think patience
6-7 times 8 min a day
This is a contemplative technique
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Article by M.P. Bhattathiri, Retired Chief Technical Examiner , to The Govt. of Kerala. Humble request that it may be published in your website and magazine after editing if necessary
Let me bow to Indian Maharishi Patanjali with folded hands who helped in removing the impurities of the mind through his writings on Yoga, impurities of speech through his writings on grammer, and impurities of body through his writings on Ayurveda.
The American justice Dept. have recently approved the power of yoga and meditation vide a recent judgement in the American court."Man Who Slapped Wife Sentenced to Yoga, It's Anger Management, Says Judge." First there was house arrest. Now there's yoga. A judge ordered a man convicted of slapping his wife to take a yoga class as part of his one-year probation. "It's part of anger management," County Criminal Court at Law Judge Larry Standley said of the ancient Hindu philosophy of exercise and well-being. "For people who are into it, it really calms them down. " Standley, a former prosecutor, said the case of James Lee Cross was unique. Cross, a 53-year-old car salesman from Tomball, explained that his wife was struggling with a substance abuse problem and that he struck her on New Year's Eve during an argument about her drinking. "He was trying to get a hold of her because she has a problem," Standley said after the court hearing. "I thought this would help him realize that he only has control over himself." The sentence came as a surprise to Cross, who was told to enroll in a class and report back to Standley on his progress. "I'm not very familiar with it," Cross said of yoga. "From what I understand, it may help in a couple ways, not only as far as mentally settling, but maybe a little weight loss." Darla Magee, an instructor at Yoga Body Houston in River Oaks, said she would recommend that Cross take a basic yoga class emphasizing breathing and including a variety of postures -- forward bends, back bends and twists. "Yoga can help us to get rid of many emotional issues we might have," she said. "It's a spiritual cleanse." Prosecutor Lincoln Goodwin agreed to a sentence of probation without jail time because Cross had no significant criminal history http://www.chron.com/cs/CDA/ssistory.mpl/metropolitan/2365341.
Yoga which is one of the greatest Indian co tribution to the world has got vast potential in all fields. In Tihar jail India Yoga is experimented among the inamtes and found successful. Their criminal mentality is changed. This study aimed at investigating the effect of Vipassana Meditation (VM) on Quality of Life (QOL), Subjective Well-Being (SWB), and Criminal Propensity (CP) among inmates of Tihar Jail, Delhi. To this effect the following hypotheses were formulated. 1. There will be a significant positive effect of VM on the QOL of inmates of Tihar jail. 2. VM will have a positive and significant effect on SWB of inmates. 3. Criminal propensity (CP) of inmates will decrease significantly after attending the VM course. 4. There will be significant difference in SWB and CP of experimental (Vipassana) group and control (non-Vipassana) group. 5. Male and female inmates will differ significantly in SWB and CP, as a result of VM. In the famous "Time" magazine the importance meditation and yoga, an ancient Indian system, is high-lighted that the ancient mind- and spirit-enhancing art is becoming increasingly popular and gaining medical legitimacy. It is a multi billion dollar business in US. In many Universities it is accepted as subject and included in the Syllabus. In the latest famous book "Inspire! What Great Leaders Do" written by Mr.Lance Secretan recently published by John Wiley and sons, the benefit of meditation is elaborately described for good corporate governance. By practising transcendental meditation, or TM, many people have got relief from back pain, neck pain, depression. The mind calms and quiets, . What thoughts you have during meditation become clearer, more focused. Anger, anxiety and worries give way to a peace. In the world exhorbitant medical expeneses one can definitely make use of meditation. Maharshi Mahesh Yogi and Sri Ravi Sankar are poplarising this. The Iyengar Yoga institute in US is famous.
In Bhagavad Gita Lord Krishna has inspired Arjuna to rise from his depression by preaching Gita in the battlefield and to rise from the depression to do his duties. In Holy Gita we can see, being hidden by the cosmic overview of any institution beset with myriad problems, not the least of which is its lack of moral probity, there is a groundswell of educated people seeking answers to deeply personal but universally asked questions. Chie Executives taking lessons from yoga, meditation and learning how to deal with human resources equations in an enlightened manner. Individuals from every walk of life can get ideas of how to be better human beings, more balanced and less stressed out.
Medical studies continue to show regular meditation working magic in reducing blood pressure and stress-related illnesses, including heart disease. Brain images show that regular meditation helps calm the most active sensory-assaulted parts of the brain. The ancient Hindu sage Patanjali who had mastered the secrets of the human mind has written a book "Yogasutra".In this book we can see how super powers can be achieved by meditation. It has both cosmic relevance and cosmic resonance. In spite of its universal appeal, for most people total control of mind remains an elusive goal and daunting task. From time immemorial, there have been many attempts throughout the world to unlock the mysteries of the mind and to achieve total control over it through a variety of techniques. One of the most powerful of these techniques is meditation.
Many spiritual leaders, sages, saints, and holy people such asSri. Buddha, Sri Ramakrishna, Madam Sarada Devi, and Swami Vivekananda have practised this. One of the ways to control physiological reactions to psychological stimuli is meditation, Yoga, Zen Buddhism etc. The scientists take Transcendental Meditation (TM) as the uniform technique, and base their observations on the study of the subjects engaged in this form of meditation. In summing up the results the scientists have come to conclusion that the effect of meditation is a "wakeful, hypo-metabolic state". They have found that: 1) Yogis could slow both heart rate and rate of respiration, 2) Yogis could slow the rate of metabolism as confirmed by decreased oxygen consumption and carbon-di-oxide output. 3) Electro-Encephalo-Gram (EEG - recording of brain activity) in Yogis showed changes of calmness in the form of "alpha rhythm" during both eyes closed and eyes open recordings. 4) Th ir skin resistance to electric stimulation was increased (indicating increased tolerance to external stimuli). Our usual 'defence-alarm' reaction to emotional and physical stress is in the form of "fright, flight, and fight" mediated through over-secretion of certain neuro-transmitters and neuro-modulators, namely adrenaline and dopamine by way of stimulation of sympathetic nervous system. Under the influence of these chemicals and hormones, we reflexively become panicky or aggressive, our blood pressure rises. Thus stress and anxiety is the end result if we allow our natural age-old sympathetic reactions to act and to come to surface. We try to run away, become fearful, or fight the situation. But today these 'defence-alarm' reactions have no place in our lives. Rather, they should be replaced by more calm and serene reactions of equanimity and fearlessness. The need is to just 'face the brute, and it will go away'. Such desirable reactions of non-aggression and peaceful attitude are generated by Y ga and meditation. EEG Studies on Yogis and The Zen Meditations: Yogis practising Raja-Yoga claim that during the state of samadhi they are oblivious to the internal and external stimuli, and they enjoy a calm ecstasy during that state. A study was undertaken to record the electrical activity of their brain during this state by means of a regular and useful test known as electroencephalography EEG. Physiological and experimental studies have demonstrated that the basis of conscious state of brain, among other things, is due to activation of "reticular system" in the brain-stem in response to internal and external stimuli. These stimuli bring about various changes during sleeping and wakeful states of the organism and these can be studied by EEG. The study was carried out on four subjects during the state of concentration and meditation. Effects of external stimuli, like a loud gong, strong light, thermal simulation, and vibrations were studied. The results were compiled and analyzed. It was observed that two Yogis could keep their hands immersed in extremely cold water for about 50 minutes (raised pain threshold). During state of meditation, all of them showed persistent "alpha activity" in their EEG with increased amplitude wave pattern, both during 'eyes closed' and 'eyes open' recording. It was observed that these alpha activities could not be blocked by various sensory stimuli during meditation. It was also observed that those, who had well-marked "alpha activity" in their resting EEG showed greater aptitude and zeal for maintaining the practice of Yoga. Similar observations and results were obtained when EEGs were recorded in persons adept in Zen Meditative technique. Can we say that only those persons who exhibit such recording of "alpha wave rhythm" in their EEG are fit for Yoga? and be designated as right candidates for meditation and Yoga practices? (Such experiments are indeed very few and the number of yogis examined is also very small. Therefore, scientifically and statistic lly these observations have only a tentative importance. Further research is definitely called for, albeit it will have its own limitations.) It is said that in the unknown period of Lord Jesus Christ , He was under meditation.
Ref. Yoga magazines
Newsweek.com
Newyork times
Time magazine